I figured that this is how it was supposed to be in every home, right? Wrong! I learned that in my first relationship, which resulted in marriage but was quickly followed by divorce.
I expected him to be like my brothers. I had a hidden agency for the chores he was to be responsible for with our even discussing them with him. When I found myself upset that he did not perform these tasks at his own will, I realized that it was not fair to expect it of him. I was imposing my upbringing onto him.
What hidden agendas have you imposed on your loved one (s). These chores can have devastating affects on relationships. So trash the agenda and communicate your needs to them and allow them to chose which chores they are comfortable taking on. Once you have a mutual agreement there is no resentment.